Get physical
Vigorous physical activity 'primes' a woman's body for arousal so revitalise yourself with a gym session, take a brisk walk to blow the cobwebs away, or put on some hot salsa music and shimmy
Get in the mood
Women take longer than men to get in the mood so during the day fantasise about sex so that you're warmed up by bedtime. Stare at men you see in the course of your day and have idle, rude thoughts while you mentally undress them
Make a date
Make-believe that you and your partner are on a date together like in the early days, when you'd be full of tingly anticipation of what was to come (mundane topics like household duties, kids' troubles and work moans are banned)
Style your bedroom
Be selective with the photos you display in the bedroom. Pictures of the kids, your friends or your mother-in-law aren't likely to inspire passion and the idea of Aunt Hilda beaming at you from across the room might be enough to turn you off the whole idea.
Banish family and friends to the living room and replace those snaps with beautiful images of you and your lover at various stages of your relationship
The right light
Keep two lamps by the bed, one for normal use and one for your more intimate moments. Fit a lower-wattage bulb into the 'sexy lamp' and only switch it on when you're feeling in the mood. Don't tell your partner - the simple act of turning on the light is the only signal they'll need
Help yourself
It's a fact: the more orgasms you have, the more your body wants them - so up your quota by masturbating more frequently, with or without a vibrator, then try masturbating in front of your partner for added va-va-voom
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X-rated fun
Take a piece of paper and draw an outline of your partner's body. Get them to mark an X on every spot they want you to touch, lick or kiss. Then get them to draw you and make your own demands. With your personalised erotic treasure map, there'll be no stopping you
Opposites attract
If you usually enjoy it soft, go for a bit of rough. If leisurely foreplay is generally your thing, indulge in a frantic quickie. If you're a 'soft moaner' at the critical moments, try talking dirty for a change. Get your partner to do the same and you'll have all the thrills of taking a new lover
Techniques to try
Here are two nifty techniques to put a whole new spin on your handiwork. The Flame: pretend you're lighting a campfire with two sticks and spin your lover's penis between your fingers. Then try the Love Tug: as you're stroking him, lightly pull on the wispy strands of pubic hair sprouting from his testicles - you'll have him howling in delight
