Tips for coloring your hair at home

Beautiful hair from a box

You can color your hair at home for a fraction of the cost of professional hair color. To achieve beautiful hair color at home, follow these simple hair coloring tips.
Home hair color

Keep it simple

If you want to cover your gray, or go a couple shades lighter or darker, then home hair color is for you. If you want anything more dramatic, then it's best to go to the salon. Also, if you hair is damaged or chemically treated, stick with a professional to be sure you don't overprocess and damage your hair.

Select a shade

Don't be overwhelmed by the hundreds of different hair color products on the shelves. Visit the websites of Revlon, Clairol or Loreal where you can fill out a simple questionnaire and figure out the right shade for you.

Don't make it permanent

If you are new to coloring your hair or trying a shade that's a little bit different, select a temporary or semi-permanent hair color rather than permanent. Temporary color washes out in 6-12 shampoos, while semi-permanent hair color will normally wash out in about 20-26 shampoos. Permanent hair color can last six to eight weeks or even longer.

Get organized

To make things easier, you can invite over a friend to help color your hair. However, even with a friend, you need to get organized. In addition to your home hair coloring kit, you will also need a few supplies.
  • Plastic gloves (normally provided with kit)
  • Old button-down shirt
  • Vaseline
  • Damp rag for wiping up spills
  • Hair clip
  • Wide tooth comb
  • Old towel
  • Big safety pin
Put on the shirt and fasten the towel around your neck with the safety pin before you begin.

Testing. Testing.

The instructions with your box of hair color say you should test a few strands of hair first, but many women skip this step. If you haven't used this particular hair color before, you should definitely do the test to make sure it's the shade you desire.

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Coloring your hair

Don't wash your hair the day you are going to color your hair. Most experts suggest waiting 24 to 48 hours after washing your hair before applying hair color. Freshly washed hair is lacking the oils needed to absorb the hair color.

Apply Vaseline to your skin all around your hairline to protect your skin from the dye.

Mix the hair color according to the directions on the box. Use a comb to separate your dry hair into four major sections. Begin by taking a smaller subsection from one of the sections and applying hair color from the bottle. Don't use too big of a section - you want to make sure the color is thoroughly worked through your hair.

Start with the roots and work your way down and outward, piling your hair on the top of your head as you go. You can use a hair clip or multiple clips to pin your hair up.

Following the instructions included in the box, wait 25-45 minutes for the color to work. If you have a lot of gray hair, it's best to wait the maximum time limit. After your color has processed, rinse your hair with cool water.

Hair highlights

Wait to wash

After rinsing out your color, apply the conditioner supplied with your kit but don't wash your hair. Wait at least a full day, preferably 48 hours, after coloring your hair before you wash it. This will also allow the hair color to completely penetrate your hair shaft.

Touch-up your roots

About four to six weeks after coloring your hair, you may need to touch-up your roots. When touching up the roots, don't over-color the ends. Apply conditioner to your ends and then just color the roots and top. Five minutes before it's time to rinse out the color, use a wide tooth comb to distribute the color down the hair shaft to the ends. Then rinse as usual.

Highlights at home

For natural looking highlights, buy a second box of hair color a shade or two lighter to create highlights around your face. You can use a paint brush to paint on the highlights as thin or as thick as you'd like them.
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Winter hairstyles

When the seasons change, you should change more than just your wardrobe. Consider something different for your hair too. This winter, try a new hairstyle, deeper hair color and different haircare products.
Beautiful woman - winter hair




When the seasons change, you should change more than just your wardrobe. Consider something different for your hair too. This winter, try a new hairstyle, deeper hair color and different haircare products.
Beautiful woman - winter hair
Winter hair color
As the cold weather sets in, consider going darker with your hair color. All the blonde highlights of summer can be replaced with warm, rich colors. For brunettes, deep auburn highlights are a fabulous choice. Blondes can go a shade or two darker in the winter months and get rid of that sun-drenched look. Avoid harsh, chunky highlights and instead go for more natural, thin streaks of color that blend. Face framing highlights will still be popular throughout the winter months.

Anne Hathaway - Long bob
Winter hairstyles
The hottest style of the season is the modern, long bob that falls just above the shoulders. Many women are growing out their short bobs from last year and these longer, layered bobs are a top choice. Celebrities such as Gwyneth Paltrow and Anne Hathaway have been seen with this cute cut. Instead of a harsh straight bob, add some layers to give your hair some texture.

For something fun, upload your photo to one of the hairstyle websites such as The Hair Styler or Instant Hair Style to "try on" dozens of styles in their virtual studio to see how you'll look.

Glamorous updo's
Since holiday party season is almost upon us, you should practice putting your hair in an updo. Most of us can't afford to go to the salon for a coifed style every single time we are headed out to a party. Instead learn how to create a pretty updo yourself. Fortunately messy updo's are "in." So if you don't do it just perfectly, no one will notice.

Follow these tips from Ford Models hairstylist Johnny Lavoy to make an evening updo in just a few minutes. It's glamorous and beautiful.


Haircare tips
In the winter, our hair is exposed to the harsh elements of cold temperatures, damaging winds and dry indoor heating. You need to take some extra steps to make sure your hair stays hydrated and healthy this season.

Woman in winter hat
Wear a hat or headscarf
Whenever possible, cover your head when going outdoors. Fortunately, winter hats are trendy right now and there are plenty of chic choices to choose from. Be careful as not to wrap your head so tight that your scalp will sweat and your blood can't circulate properly.

Condition daily
In the warmer months, you may not have to condition your hair everyday. However in the wintertime, you should use conditioner (at least on your ends) each day. Also try these homemade beauty treatments for your hair.

Dry your hair completely
Don't go outside with wet hair. Not only do you risk getting a head cold, but you also may damage your hair. If you introduce wet hair to freezing temperatures, you hair may snap and break.

Use a moisturizing shampoo
Look for shampoos that are labeled "moisturizing," "hydrating" or "replenishing." You want to provide your hair with as much moisture as you can to keep it shiny and healthy. However, you don't need to shampoo everyday. You can use a dry shampoo between washings to keep your hair fresh.



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Hot hairstyles

Summer brings so many exciting possibilities, but the intense heat that comes with it is not always a welcome reality. So how to beat the heat? There are lots of ways however one big one is to get your hair out of your face and/or off your neck to give your skin more breathing room. Here are five hairstyles that will help you stay cool this summer.

Three braid half-up

For a fun and stylish way to get your hair out of your face, try this three braid half up style. You will need six bobby pins for this style. Start with all of your hair down and take a small section of the front center of your hair. Braid that section of your hair a few loose stitches and then pin it back with bobby pins. To fasten hair securely, use the two pins to make an x shape holding in and down the braided strands. Now do the same process with a small section of hair from the front right and from the front left. Finish the look off with some hair spray to keep those strands in place and keep frizz in check. For a variation on this style, you can twist your hair instead of braiding it.





Summer brings so many exciting possibilities, but the intense heat that comes with it is not always a welcome reality. So how to beat the heat? There are lots of ways however one big one is to get your hair out of your face and/or off your neck to give your skin more breathing room. Here are five hairstyles that will help you stay cool this summer.
Three braid half-up

For a fun and stylish way to get your hair out of your face, try this three braid half up style. You will need six bobby pins for this style. Start with all of your hair down and take a small section of the front center of your hair. Braid that section of your hair a few loose stitches and then pin it back with bobby pins. To fasten hair securely, use the two pins to make an x shape holding in and down the braided strands. Now do the same process with a small section of hair from the front right and from the front left. Finish the look off with some hair spray to keep those strands in place and keep frizz in check. For a variation on this style, you can twist your hair instead of braiding it.
Three braid updo

Get that hair off your neck with this adaptation on the previous style. To start, get your hair in the three braid (or twist) half-up. For a younger and more casual updo, then simply tie your hair up in a loose high ponytail. Or for a more formal approach, put your hair up in a messy bun and secure it with more bobby pins.
Crazy braid updo

Last summer the style and beauty blogosphere went gaga when Glamour Magazine posted this photo of one of their intern's fabulous hairdo. Their talented fashion intern Ellen created this fun and fresh look by braiding her hair in many sections and then pinning them up arbitrarily. She said that she doesn't look in the mirror at all when she does this, which might seem crazy at first but actually makes a lot of sense. If you're constantly checking out your progress in the mirror, you'll get too wrapped up in what should go where to be able to achieve the casual, haphazard aura. Ellen finished off her look with a few flower hair clips, but you can use whatever strikes your fancy or keep it simple with nothing at all.
Pollyanna twist

If you have long side bangs or short layers in front and want to get them out of your face, try this simple style. With your hair parted down the center, start on one side by taking those few short strands and a couple longer ones also from the front. Then twist all of these strands together into one long roll. Do the same thing on the other side and bring both to tie at the back of your head. Bring them back low so that the rolls pass over the midlevel of your ears and then secure them back with a hair tie. The result is an easy, breezy look that is similar to one often rocked by Lauren Conrad.
French braid pigtails

For the classic picnic look, you can't go wrong with french braided pigtails. Start by parting your hair all the way back down the center. Secure one half with a hair tie while you french braid the other. Then do the same to the other side. It's a classic girly style that is perfect for the gym or the beach.



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Michael Jackson dies
Michael Jackson dies at the age of 50
Michael Jackson dies after suffering a heart attack in his California home. Jackson's death is a shock as he was only 50.

Michael Jackson dead is a shock to everyoneJackson was not breathing when emergency crews were called to his LA home around noon on Thursday, June 25. Los Angeles Fire Department Steve Ruda told the Los Angeles Times that paramedics performed CPR on Jackson while transporting him to UCLA Medical Center.
Michael Jackson dead

It is reported that paramedics never regained a pulse. Michael Jackson died before he arrived at the medical center. Members of the Jackson family were seen gathering at the hospital throughout the day.

The life of Michael Jackson was one of rags to riches, but also one of a sad, isolated man who faced continuing controversy over personal and professional actions.

Rising to childhood fame as the front man of the Jackson 5, Michael and his brothers carried the family out of working class Gary, Indiana and onto the international stage. Jackson spoke openly about his childhood abuse at the hands of his father, Joe Jackson, in an interview with Oprah Winfrey in 1993 and how his meteoric rise to stardom negated any chance of having a childhood, resulting in his fascination with all things child-like.
Michael Jackson: to the top

Jackson continued his rapid career trajectory with his first solo album Off the Wall, which produced four top ten hits and three American Music Awards. But it was his second solo album, Thriller, which firmly entrenched Jackson as the King of Pop.

The moonwalk, Jackson’s signature dance move, was debuted while he performed his huge hit Billy Jean live on the TV special Motown 25: Yesterday, Today, Forever.



But despite his wild success, Jackson was dogged by rumors and allegations of strange and sometimes criminal behavior offstage. Jackson was accused of lightening his skin to look less ethnic; doctors confirmed the singer actually suffered from vitiglio and lupus, the treatment for which causes changes in skin pigmentation and sensitivity to sunlight.
Jackson personal issues

Michael Jackson also had repeated and obvious facial plastic surgeries, including (according to medical professionals) at least four nose jobs, a forehead lift, thinned lips, cheekbone implants and a cleft put into his chin. Many believe Jackson suffered from body dysmorphic disorder, possibly caused by his abusive childhood and early fame.

Other rumors about Michael Jackson included him sleeping in a hyperbolic chamber to prevent aging, keeping a pet chimpanzee and purchasing the bones of the Elephant Man. Jackson disputed all but the chimp claim in his 1993 Oprah interview.

Michael Jackson’s public image took a turn for the worse when he was accused of sexual abuse by a 13-year-old boy who was a regular guest in Jackson’s home, along with his family. Jackson strongly proclaimed his innocence, yet made a financial settlement to the victim’s family of $22 million, after which the alleged victim refused to cooperate with the police investigation. Jackson was never formally charged, but the damage was done to his public persona. An image that would remain until Michael Jackson died.

See more Michael Jackson death coverage hereSeveral years later, Jackson was brought up on charges of child sexual abuse and administering an intoxicating agent after a documentary titled Living with Michael Jackson showed him holding hands and discussing sleeping arrangements with a 14-year-old boy. Jackson again denied the allegations and was acquitted on all counts in 2005.

During these two trials, Jackson became addicted to various prescription medications, including Valium, Xanax, Ativan, morphine and Demerol.


ON THE NEXT PAGE: About ex-wife Lisa Marie Presley, the Jackson family and Michael Jackson's legacy




Michael Jackson dies after suffering a heart attack in his California home. Jackson's death is a shock as he was only 50.


First wife Lisa Marie Presley helped Jackson kick his drug habit after the first molestation allegations came to light. She said, "I believed he didn't do anything wrong and that he was wrongly accused and yes I started falling for him. I wanted to save him. I felt that I could do it." Presley encouraged Jackson to settle out of court and go to rehab. He did both, and afterwards the couple married in secret, not telling the press for two months. They divorced amicably two years later.

Michael Jackson dies at the age of 50
Jackson family

A second marriage to nurse Deborah Jean Rowe resulted in two children, Michael Joseph Jackson, Jr and Paris Michael Katherine Jackson. Rowe gave Jackson full rights to the children upon the couple’s divorce in 1999. A third child, Prince Michael Jackson II, was born in 2002 by an undisclosed mother.

Hard times recently befell Jackson, who was in deep debt and had to sell multiple assets, including his beloved Neverland Ranch. The singer just announced a series of ten comeback shows in London beginning in July, selling 75,000 tickets in four hours. The shows were later increased to 50, then postponed until 2010, leading to rumors of health problems -- problems denied by promoters.
Michael Jackson death: a lasting legacy

No matter what his public image may have been at the time of his death, Michael Jackson’s musical legacy cannot be disputed. He is the fourth top selling music artist of all time, coming in behind The Beatles, Elvis Presley and Bing Crosby -- not including his Jackson 5 sales. He released ten albums, enjoyed 13 number one hits as a solo artist, won 22 American Music Awards, 40 Billboard Awards and 19 Grammys, and holds 13 Guinness World Records and 56 certifications and awards through the RIAA. Jackson’s albums Thriller and Off the Wall were inducted into the Grammy Hall of Fame in 2008, and Thriller is certified as the best selling album of all time by Guinness.

In addition to his professional achievements, Jackson supported 39 charities. Despite rumors of pedophilia, Jackson -- who attributed his love of all this childlike to not being allowed to enjoy a childhood of his own -- supported multiple children’s charities alongside good friend Elizabeth Taylor.

Jackson is also credited with crossing the color barrier and improving race relations during turbulent times.

"Michael Jackson made culture accept a person of color," the Rev Al Sharpton says. "To say an 'icon' would only give these young people in Harlem a fraction of what he was. He was a historic figure that people will measure music and the industry by."



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Autopsy planned after Jackson's sudden death

FILE - In this Aug. 29, 1993 file photo, pop singer Michael Jackson performs

AP – FILE - In this Aug. 29, 1993 file photo, pop singer Michael Jackson performs during his 'Dangerous' concert LOS ANGELES – Authorities are seeking to clear up the mystery surrounding Michael Jackson's death, including whether prescription drugs could have been a factor.

An autopsy was to begin Friday, though results weren't likely to be final until toxicology tests could be completed, a process that could take weeks. However, if a cause can be determined by the autopsy, they will announce the results, said Los Angeles County Coroner Investigator Jerry McKibben.

In a press conference Friday, Lt. Ed Winter, assistant chief coroner, said the likelihood was slim that the coroner's office would have anything to release today and said results could take 6-8 weeks.

"We're conducting it as we do any other exam," said Winter.

Police said they were investigating, standard procedure in high-profile cases.

Brian Oxman, a former attorney of Jackson's and a family friend, said he was concerned about Jackson's use of painkillers and he warned the singer's family about possible abuse.

"I said one day, we're going to have this experience. And when Anna Nicole Smith passed away, I said we cannot have this kind of thing with Michael Jackson," Oxman said Friday on NBC's "Today" show. "The result was, I warned everyone, and lo and behold, here we are. I don't know what caused his death. But I feared this day, and here we are."

The 50-year-old musical superstar died Thursday, just as he was preparing for a series of 50 concerts starting July 13 at London's 02 arena.

He died at UCLA Medical Center after being stricken at his rented home in the posh Los Angeles neighborhood of Holmby Hills. Paramedics tried to resuscitate him for nearly three-quarters of an hour, then rushed him to the hospital, where doctors continued to work on him.

His brother Jermaine said it was believed that Jackson suffered cardiac arrest at his home. Cardiac arrest is an abnormal heart rhythm that stops the heart from pumping blood to the body. It can occur after a heart attack or be caused by other heart problems.

A handful of bleary-eyed fans camped out throughout the night with media outside the Jackson family house in the San Fernando Valley and near his star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. People heading to work in New York on Friday were stopping at a makeshift memorial outside Harlem's Apollo Theater, where Jackson performed as a child.

Oxman, who said he was speaking on behalf of no one but himself, and other friends made the rounds among the news outlets Friday, adding to the intrigue of Jackson's early demise. Oxman claims Jackson had prescription drugs at his disposal to help with pain suffered when he broke his leg after he fell off a stage and for broken vertebrae in his back.

"When the autopsy comes, all hell's going to break loose, so thank God we're celebrating him now," Liza Minnelli told CBS' "The Early Show" by telephone.

In 2007, Jackson settled a lawsuit filed by a Beverly Hills pharmacy that claimed he owed more than $100,000 for prescription drugs over a two-year period.

After Jackson was acquitted on child molestation charges in 2005, Santa Barbara County District Attorney Tom Sneddon argued against returning some items belonging to Jackson he labeled "contraband." Sneddon said those included syringes, the drug Demerol and prescriptions for various drugs, mainly antibiotics, that were in different people's names.

Stephen Hill, an executive producer for the BET Awards, said Sunday's show would be dedicated to Jackson because of his influence on music and pop culture.

"I think what you're going to find is that acceptance speeches for awards will have nothing to do about the artists themselves, but about the influence that Michael Jackson had on them," Hill said in a phone interview.

Universal Pictures' "Bruno" screened in Los Angeles on Thursday night with a scene involving Jackson's sister La Toya Jackson cut from the movie. A spokesman for Universal said the studio had no comment.

Jackson's death brought a tragic end to a long, bizarre, sometimes farcical decline from his peak in the 1980s, when he was popular music's premier all-around performer, a uniter of black and white music who shattered the race barrier on MTV, dominated the charts and dazzled even more on stage.

His 1982 album, "Thriller" — which included the blockbuster hits "Beat It," "Billie Jean" and "Thriller" — is the best-selling album of all time worldwide.

Yet after selling more than 61 million albums in the U.S. and having a decade-long attraction open at Disney theme parks, Jackson died reportedly awash in about $400 million in debt, on the cusp of a final comeback after well over a decade of scandal.

As word of his death spread, MTV switched its programming to play videos from Jackson's heyday. Radio stations began playing marathons of his hits. Hundreds of people gathered outside the hospital. In New York's Times Square, a low groan went up in the crowd when a screen flashed that Jackson had died, and people began relaying the news to friends by cell phone.

The public first knew him as a boy in the late 1960s, when he was the precocious, spinning lead singer of the Jackson 5, the singing group he formed with his four older brothers out of Gary, Ind. Among their No. 1 hits were "I Want You Back," "ABC" and "I'll Be There."

He was perhaps the most exciting performer of his generation, known for his backward-gliding moonwalk, his feverish, crotch-grabbing dance moves and his high-pitched singing, punctuated with squeals and titters. His single sequined glove, tight, military-style jacket and aviator sunglasses were trademarks, as was his ever-changing, surgically altered appearance.

"For Michael to be taken away from us so suddenly at such a young age, I just don't have the words," said Quincy Jones, who produced "Thriller." "He was the consummate entertainer and his contributions and legacy will be felt upon the world forever. I've lost my little brother today, and part of my soul has gone with him."

Jackson ranked alongside Elvis Presley and the Beatles as the biggest pop sensations of all time. He united two of music's biggest names when he was briefly married to Presley's daughter, Lisa Marie. Jackson's sudden death immediately evoked comparisons to that of Presley himself, who died at age 42 in 1977.

"I am so very sad and confused with every emotion possible," Lisa Marie Presley said in a statement. "I am heartbroken for his children who I know were everything to him and for his family. This is such a massive loss on so many levels, words fail me."

As years went by, Jackson became an increasingly freakish figure — a middle-aged man-child weirdly out of touch with grown-up life. His skin became lighter, his nose narrower, and he spoke in a breathy, girlish voice. He often wore a germ mask while traveling, kept a pet chimpanzee named Bubbles as one of his closest companions and surrounded himself with children at his Neverland ranch, a storybook playland filled with toys, rides and animals. The tabloids dubbed him "Wacko Jacko."

Jackson caused a furor in 2002 when he playfully dangled his infant son, Prince Michael II, over a hotel balcony in Berlin while a throng of fans watched from below.

In 2005, he was cleared of charges that he molested a 13-year-old cancer survivor at Neverland in 2003. He had been accused of plying the boy with alcohol and groping him, and of engaging in strange and inappropriate behavior with other children.

The case followed years of rumors about Jackson and young boys. In a TV documentary, he acknowledged sharing his bed with children, a practice he described as sweet and not at all sexual.

Despite the acquittal, the lurid allegations that came out in court took a fearsome toll on his career and image, and he fell into serious financial trouble.

Michael Joseph Jackson was born Aug. 29, 1958, in Gary. He was 4 years old when he began singing with his brothers — Marlon, Jermaine, Jackie and Tito — in the Jackson 5. After his early success with bubblegum soul, he struck out on his own, generating innovative, explosive, unstoppable music.

The album "Thriller" mixed the dark, serpentine bass and drums and synthesizer approach of "Billie Jean," the grinding Eddie Van Halen guitar solo on "Beat It" and the hiccups and falsettos on "Wanna Be Startin' Somethin'."

The peak may have come in 1983, when Motown celebrated its 25th anniversary with an all-star televised concert and Jackson moonwalked off with the show, joining his brothers for a medley of old hits and then leaving them behind with a pointing, crouching, high-kicking, splay-footed, crotch-grabbing run through "Billie Jean."

The audience stood and roared. Jackson raised his fist.

During production of a 1984 Pepsi commercial, Jackson's scalp sustained burns when an explosion set his hair on fire.

He had strong follow-up albums with 1987's "Bad" and 1991's "Dangerous," but his career began to collapse in 1993 after he was accused of molesting a boy who often stayed at his home. The singer denied any wrongdoing, reached a settlement with the boy's family, reported to be $20 million, and criminal charges were never filed.

Jackson expressed anger over the allegations on the 1995 album, "HIStory," which sold more than 2.4 million copies, but by then, the popularity of Jackson's music was clearly waning even as public fascination with his increasingly erratic behavior was growing.

Jackson married Lisa Marie Presley in 1994, and they divorced in 1996. Later that year, Jackson married Deborah Rowe, a former nurse for his dermatologist. They had two children together: Michael Joseph Jackson Jr., known as Prince Michael, now 12; and Paris Michael Katherine Jackson, 11. Rowe filed for divorce in 1999.

Jackson also had a third child, Prince Michael II, now 7. Jackson said the boy, nicknamed Blanket as a baby, was his biological child born from a surrogate mother.

Billboard magazine editorial director Bill Werde said Jackson's star power was unmatched. "The world just lost the biggest pop star in history, no matter how you cut it," Werde said. "He's literally the king of pop."

Jackson's 13 No. 1 one hits on the Billboard charts put him behind only Presley, the Beatles and Mariah Carey, Werde said.

"He was on the eve of potentially redeeming his career a little bit," he said. "People might have started to think of him again in a different light."

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Positions, please! Sex and pregnancy

Sex during pregnancy: It's one of those questions you never quite get around to asking your caregiver.

Sex during pregnancy
Not that she doesn't give you plenty of opportunity: Usually after the physical exam is done and you're trying to pretend that it's normal to be wearing only socks on the bottom half of your body, your Ob/Gyn or midwife asks if you have any other questions. And somehow, it just doesn't seem like the right moment to blurt out, "Am I ever going to enjoy sex again?"




Fear not. We're going to save you from the agony and embarrassment of that question. Right here, we are going to tell you: Yes, you could be enjoying sex as early as this evening (or, hey, 10 minutes after you finish this article, depending on how far away your partner is at this moment).

Avoiding the agony
The problem for many pregnant women is a certain level of discomfort (by which we mean, pain so intense it can make you want to bite the, uh, hand that's feeding you, if you catch our drift) during sex. The "discomfort" can be localized, or it can share the fun and spread all over your body. Your cervix hurts (did you even know where your cervix was before this?), your abdomen hurts, your nipples hurt; you're just one big world of hurt. Well, Sister, you don't have to take this lying down. In fact, that's probably the worst way you could take it: missionary style.

"Somewhere around mid-second trimester, and definitely by the third trimester, the weight of the uterus makes the missionary position uncomfortable, and possibly unsafe, due to compression of the blood supply by the uterus," explains Valerie Davis Raskin, MD, author of Great Sex for Moms (Fireside). What to do, then? "Let your body naturally guide you," says Raskin. "The positions that are most comfortable now for sleeping are also most comfortable for lovemaking. For example, you could try 'spooning' on your side -- your husband enters the vagina from behind you."

Exciting escapades
Feeling a little more adventurous? "We found the best position for me was having my husband behind me while I was slightly bent over holding on to our headboard, wall or countertop," says 34-year-old San Jose mom-to-be Cinnamon Trimmer, who talked to us when she was expecting twin boys.

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Trimmer and her husband tried spooning but, she says, "It never worked for us." Of course, they've had some practice at this stuff. Three years ago, Trimmer had major back surgery and ever since, she says, "We've been creative with pillows and anything else within grabbing distance of the bed."

A perennial favorite with pregnant women is the delightfully named "doggie style." This position offers couples "freedom of movement," says Sandor Gardos, MD, president and CEO of MyPleasure.com, a Web site dedicated to educating people on sexuality and sex toys. He explains: "She's on her hands and knees. He stands or kneels behind her." In addition to allowing both partners greater flexibility, "This position allows him to reach around and fondle her breasts, belly and clitoris," says Gardos.

If that sounds like a little too much contact for you, you have other options. "So much of my body was sensitive when I was pregnant," says 28-year-old Gracie Harris*, a Brooklyn, New York mom of three. "I wanted to have sex, but I didn't really want my husband to touch me. I would lie on my side, and he would enter from the front with one of his legs up over my body. It was a little bit awkward, but it worked for us."

Open your mouth -- to talk
One of the best ways to get comfortable for sex when you're pregnant is to get comfortable talking about sex. If you think it's too hard, consider this: My dad reads everything I have ever published. If I can write it, you can talk about it with the father of your baby (or babies).

According to Gardos, "Many couples see sexual discussions as this sheer cliff they must scale -- and can't. Adjust your thinking. Sexual discussions aren't that different from talks about money, family or other relationship issues. If you have a matter-of-fact attitude, sex is usually easier to discuss." He suggests an open, honest question: "How are you feeling about sex lately? Are you more interested? Less? Or about the same? Let me tell you how I'm feeling."

Try something new
Look at pregnancy as a time to experiment and explore your relationship a little bit differently. "Before my first pregnancy, I was fairly passive during sex," says Kirsten Blue*. "Now, at 30 weeks, I really like being on top. I straddle my husband's hips and sit on top of him. It puts me more in control, and I'm having a lot of fun." Gardos points out that this position "also allows both spouses to massage her big belly and larger breasts -- another erotic treat."

No matter which positions you try, Gardos advises, "Use lots and lots of pillows. Anything that props her up and keeps her upper body elevated will be more comfortable too."

So surprise your sweetheart: Try something new tonight! (Need more inspiration? Check out Sexy Mamas: Keeping Your Sex Life Alive While Raising Kids by Cathy Winks and Anne Semans.) And when you can't wipe the silly grin off your face at your next caregiver's appointment, we'll let you decide for yourself just how much you want to share.


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Britney Spears Upskirt

Britney Spears is making some waves with her new album and upcoming tour. I miss the old Britney, thanks for the memories.





 






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Britney Spears Panty Upskirt

Always great to have a Britney Spears upskirt picture and here is another one.

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Isla Fisher At the Premiere of Bruno in London

Isla Fisher poses on the red carpet at the London premiere of Sacha Baron Cohen’s comedy, Bruno.

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Peaches Geldof lets the paparazzi see her tattooed topless body



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Jaime Pressly flaunts her truly buff and toned bod in a white bikini

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Profit Rises 33% for Maker of BlackBerry

TORONTO (AP) — The BlackBerry maker Research in Motion posted a 33 percent increase in quarterly profit on Thursday, exceeding expectations but disappointing investors with its forecast.

The company earned $643 million, or $1.12 a share, in the quarter, up from $482.5 million, or 84 cents a share, a year earlier.



TORONTO (AP) — The BlackBerry maker Research in Motion posted a 33 percent increase in quarterly profit on Thursday, exceeding expectations but disappointing investors with its forecast.

The company earned $643 million, or $1.12 a share, in the quarter, up from $482.5 million, or 84 cents a share, a year earlier.

Excluding a $175.1 million tax benefit and other one-time items, the company earned $564.4 million, or 98 cents a share.

Revenue in the period, which ended May 30 and was the first quarter of the company’s fiscal 2010, rose 53 percent, to $3.42 billion from $2.24 billion a year earlier, helped by the addition of about 3.8 million net subscribers during the quarter.

The company beat the 94 cents a share profit forecast of analysts, but revenue was short of the $3.43 billion expected.

In the second quarter, it expects earnings of 94 cents to $1.03 a share on revenue of $3.45 billion to $3.7 billion. Analysts expected 97 cents a share in earnings and $3.61 billion in revenue.

Shares of Research in Motion dropped more than 5 percent, to $72.56, in after hours trading on the Nasdaq.

“The guidance was solid but not as good as the street was expecting, which is probably why the stock is getting hurt in the after hours,” said Peter Misek, an analyst with Canaccord Adams in Toronto.

Stock in the company, which is based in Waterloo, Ontario, has more than doubled since March.

Research in Motion’s co-chief executive, James L. Balsillie, said in a statement that the company had captured a 55 percent share of the smartphone market in the United States



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Tantric bliss

Imagine feeling completely satisfied with your sexual experiences. It is great to not feel rushed because of the kids or work because the ultimate bliss of an orgasm stays with you for longer than the few seconds after sex. Now imagine that transcending into all others facets of life. It is possible with the practice of Tantra.

Imagine feeling completely satisfied with your sexual experiences. It is great to not feel rushed because of the kids or work because the ultimate bliss of an orgasm stays with you for longer than the few seconds after sex. Now imagine that transcending into all others facets of life. It is possible with the practice of Tantra.
Tantra is more than having sex for multiple hours or a man extending the time before ejaculation. It is a practice that helps physical and psychological health, as well as sexual intimacy. It is more about truly loving yourself and allowing that love to flow into the relationship with your partner and beyond.

Dating back as far as 6,000 years, Tantra continues to help people connect with their sexual energy, allowing enlightenment in not only sexual practices but normal life as well. It should not be confused with Kama Sutra, a literal guide to sexual positions. Tantra, instead, is the practice of what feels good to the people involved. Tantra was originally created by yogic masters to learn how to shatter a preoccupation with the ego. As explained by Richard Asimus, a leading Tantric teacher, along with his wife Antoinette, from Cincinnati Ohio, “Tantric yogis discovered the great power (of shattering the ego) is right at the root of every person’s body, in the primal root of sexual energy.” By learning various tools to shift energetic vigor, whether through breathing, meditation or other activities, it shifts the consciousness. Richard compares it to the rising of the sun, “It is like the dawn coming up; of presence, of true aliveness, vitality, an unconditional love.”

Tantra literally means to expand, manifest or interweave. It is a practice of staying in the moment and being complete aware and present at all times. Richard explains it as “not thinking about the texture of a carpet or the way the way the light filters through a window, but instead truly being one with it.” It is a practice of allowing the sexual energy to bring us to an altered state of consciousness. It is a mutual journey and adventure that extends arousal, creating psychological and energetic changes. Patricia Johnson and Mark Michaels, authors of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality and the facilitators of Tantric seminars, have helped many learn to move their lives into a state of felicity. “The vast majority of Tantra practices are not sexual,” explains Patricia, “Most of them are done alone.” She is speaking about the many Tantric meditations that promote truly loving oneself. “You must know the divine in yourself before you are able to find it with others.” One of the first practices involved when taking the steps to unbridled blissfulness is as simple as looking in the mirror. Taking the time to look into the mirror and appreciating thyself is a fundamental foundation of Tantra. The belief that a person cannot love another until he or she loves themselves is one vital belief behind Tantra. It is about connecting on a deep level and being completely aware of yourself and your surroundings. “Sexual energy dwells in all of us; it is the foundation of who we are,” states Mark. With the combination of loving and appreciating oneself, Tantra transcends the energy that is found in the bedroom, extending into all other aspects of life as well.

With that thought in mind, Tantra does not need to be limited to the bedroom. Nor does it need to seem daunting or sexually involved. “Even the act of washing dishes can be an exercise in Tantra,” explains Patricia. Taking the time to fully feel the pleasure of putting your hands in the warm, soapy water allows you to feel the moment and take pleasure in the here and now. Even if the practice is only for a moment, it is still a step toward the ultimate sexual awakening.

Here are three easy moves that can be done anywhere, anytime to help move closer to a feeling of ultimate love and bliss:

Private Gazing:
Take a few minutes out of the day to look into the mirror. This goes beyond looking in the mirror at the physical. Instead, contemplate the amazing, beautiful person that is looking back at you. Take the time to appreciate the person that you are, while looking into your own eyes. Say the words- “I love you” to help with feeling a sense of self-appreciation. This practice allows you to become more in touch with self and the love inside.

Seeing the Space in Between:
This meditation practice helps open up the senses and allows the mind to not take anything for granted. Meditating on the spaces between the obvious allows one to open up to the unknown. When this shifts to the bedroom it offers an opening up of the unconscious in to the conscious. It allows the mind to experience more than the apparent.

Pumping Up the Sexual Energy:
Kegel exercises deal with the pubococcygeus muscle (or PC muscle). It is the muscle that stretches over the pubic bone, up the tailbone, creating a supportive band for the urethra, vagina, uterus, fallopian tubes, ovaries, other vital internal organs and anus. This exercise is often given to help women control their bladder and heal after pregnancy. But it also supports and opens up the sexual energy of this area. With Kegel exercises the body’s sexual vitality is energized and awoken. The practice includes squeezing the vaginal area while sitting or standing in a relaxed position. It can also be practiced during urination by trying to stop the stream of urine. In the beginning it is important to slowly work up the amount of repetitions, length of contraction and frequency. It is a muscle that can become sore, as with any other muscle, so it is important to not over-exercise the muscular tissue.

These three exercises can be done discreetly and whenever time allows. They are moves that help you become more in touch with yourself and your sexuality. And that is truly what Tantra is all about. Loving and appreciating yourself, so that it transcends the space between you and the one you love.



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Britney Spears is in Miami for her CIRCUS tour, along with shopping with her sister, and her concert, she also enjoyed time out by the pool with her children Sean Preston and Jayden James.

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The sex-starved marriage

Many couples find themselves tangled in a troubling web when their sex drives are different, and it can wreck havoc on a marriage. Michele Weiner Davis, author of The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido - A Couple's Guide, shares some advice to put your marriage and your sex life on the right track!
Sex-starved marriage?

Many couples find themselves tangled in a troubling web when their sex drives are different, and it can wreck havoc on a marriage. Michele Weiner Davis, author of The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido - A Couple's Guide, shares some advice to put your marriage and your sex life on the right track!
Sex-starved marriage?
From a frustrated husband
Dear Michele,

Please, please help me. I am going through hell!! I am 28 years old, married with a three-year-old daughter. For the past three years, my wife has avoided being sexual with me. It has slowly gone from having sex maybe twice a week to now, if I'm lucky, once a month. And even then, it's not really having sex. It's more like her saying, "Hurry up and get in here, and let's do this before our child wakes up." There is no foreplay. She doesn't even kiss me. I'm the one who always is initiating any sort of affection.

I get completely angered, hurt, and resentful toward her because I can't understand how she could be so cruel to me. I want to tell her, "If you don't love me anymore, then we can split up and move on," but we have a child together, and I don't think that's right or fair to our daughter. I want to be there when my little girl wakes up in the morning and goes to bed at night. But I also don't want to be with a woman who doesn't want to be with me.

So I struggle every day with what I should do because I can't keep living like this. I'm miserable. I have talked to my wife about how I feel numerous times, and nothing I say seems to change anything. Is there anything else I can do besides getting a divorce? Is there something you could write to her so she hears from another person about the importance of a good sexual relationship in a marriage?
Mismatched desire
Does any of this sound familiar? Are these things you've thought or said to yourself? Or have you heard words like these uttered from your spouse in an attempt to get you to change? Either way, you need to know that you are not alone. It is estimated that one out of every three couples struggle with problems associated with low sexual desire. One study found that 20 percent of married couples have sex fewer than ten times a year! Complaints about low desire are the number 1 problem brought to sex therapists.
And if you've been thinking that low sexual desire is only "a woman's thing," think again. Many sex experts believe that low sexual desire in men is America's best-kept secret. Just read what women have to say about what really goes on behind closed doors:

I am so tired of reading articles in women's magazines and watching talk shows that perpetuate the myth that men are always more interested in sex than women. This is a bunch of hooey! There are many, many women who would love to have a spouse who wants to have sex, touch, or kiss. I've spoken to many women who have this same problem. . . . Their husbands simply aren't interested. I cannot believe my circle of friends is so different from the average. None of their husbands are "getting it on the side"... they simply are not interested. In my case, my husband of 26 years has never been as interested as I in sex, and during the last 5 years our sex life has been nonexistent. This lack of sex is more than just a lack of physical attention. It goes deep into a woman's heart. I think in a normal marriage, a couple can fight about anything, but then they can make love and soothe the bad feelings... sort of like a rebirth... a forgiving ritual. But when you are deprived of even that, bitterness and resentment and desperation accumulate. I have a husband who is a good guy, great father, good provider, but I have no lover. I'm angry about the wasted years, the years I could have been loving, but spent agonizing about why I was being deprived. It's so much more than sex. It's feeling wanted, and sexy and desired by the man that you are committed to for life.

As you can see, women have no corner on the low libido market. Maybe you're asking yourself, "If low sexual desire in men is commonplace, why are they so closed-mouthed about it?" That's a good question. When a woman lacks sexual desire, although it may be troubling to her, she's not likely to start questioning the core of her femininity. After all, she's almost supposed to have "headaches."

Men, on the other hand, are thought to have only three things on their minds: sex, sex and more sex. To be disinterested in sex is to feel less than a man. Just thinking about low libido, let alone talking about it, strikes terror in men because it threatens the very foundation on which their feelings of self-worth are based. No wonder they're tight-lipped. But make no mistake about it: there are millions of people, women and men, who just don't feel turned on.




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