Can you afford to have a baby in this economy? There's always a reason to put it off: You're too young, you're too new at your job, your career is just taking off, you just got married... The list can go on and on. But is having a baby in a recession too risky?
Is it wrong to have a baby when the country is in such dire financial straits? Parents of adult children are facing layoffs, having to sell their homes and struggling to put younger children through school. Meanwhile, the next generation of childbearers is facing the same situation... And many are wondering if the baby fever will just have to wait. Ann Douglas, author of The Mother of All Pregnancy Books, says that there is no one-size-fits-all solution to family planning. "Still...some times are definitely better than others," Douglas said in her Pregnancy and Baby column. Douglas says that partners should consider finances, feelings and the state of the relationship before trying for a baby.
For real moms facing this situation, it's making them look at what they can and cannot do -- and putting priorities in perspective.
Laid off and delayed
The financial storm that hit the country last year has affected more than bank accounts: It's left couples struggling, sometimes with both partners jobless. That's the case for Deanna Miller and her husband. This was supposed to be the year that they have a baby. "My husband and I were going to start trying to get pregnant this past May, until I was laid off April 1. He had lost his job back in December but had some job leads. We figured he'd probably have a job once the baby were to arrive. (We're realistic that we may not get pregnant on the first try.) Besides, I had the bigger salary, so he could always become a stay-at-home dad if he didn't have a job," says Deanna.
The couple is still hoping to try for a baby this year, but they want their financial picture to be more stable first. "When I lost my job, not only did we not even consider trying to get pregnant, I secretly rejoiced every time I got my period. We know that it's only June, so we're hopeful that our plans to get pregnant this year still happen, but it will just be later than we thought," says Deanna.
A ticking clock
Motherhood used to be what the young women did... or, that's how it seemed. But these days, things are different. Women mother children well into their 40s; however, the women who put off maternity get a double dose of stress when it comes to conception: A ticking biological clock and a financial time bomb.
Heidi Eklund says that, ultimately, if her child has to go without things like video games, it's not a big deal. "I am a 40-year-old voiceover actress who finally found myself in a relationship where my partner wanted to have a child with me. Then, the economy went south. We are struggling financially, but I don't have time to wait -- so we are trying. Plenty of children are born into struggling homes. My parents struggled, and their parents struggled. I grew up appreciating things when we had them, and I managed to do a lot of wonderful things in my life even though we didn't have extra money," says Heidi.
Going for it
Other couples aren't factoring finances into their decisions as much. Many couples who've skirted the jobless situation are going ahead with baby plans. "I am now 5 months along, due in mid-October. I have to say, it was a decision my husband and I made with little regard to the economy, and I think that's because we are both doing well in our careers with no real signs that economy will affect [them] anytime soon. I am 28, and my husband is 30, so we figured this was the perfect time to grow our family," says LaNesha Gipson. Gipson says that, despite the economy, she is considering opening her own business to work at home and care for her child.
As Cecille Hansen's mother told her, "If people waited until they felt they could really afford children, the species would have died out."
For real moms facing this situation, it's making them look at what they can and cannot do -- and putting priorities in perspective.
Laid off and delayed
The financial storm that hit the country last year has affected more than bank accounts: It's left couples struggling, sometimes with both partners jobless. That's the case for Deanna Miller and her husband. This was supposed to be the year that they have a baby. "My husband and I were going to start trying to get pregnant this past May, until I was laid off April 1. He had lost his job back in December but had some job leads. We figured he'd probably have a job once the baby were to arrive. (We're realistic that we may not get pregnant on the first try.) Besides, I had the bigger salary, so he could always become a stay-at-home dad if he didn't have a job," says Deanna.
The couple is still hoping to try for a baby this year, but they want their financial picture to be more stable first. "When I lost my job, not only did we not even consider trying to get pregnant, I secretly rejoiced every time I got my period. We know that it's only June, so we're hopeful that our plans to get pregnant this year still happen, but it will just be later than we thought," says Deanna.
A ticking clock
Motherhood used to be what the young women did... or, that's how it seemed. But these days, things are different. Women mother children well into their 40s; however, the women who put off maternity get a double dose of stress when it comes to conception: A ticking biological clock and a financial time bomb.
Heidi Eklund says that, ultimately, if her child has to go without things like video games, it's not a big deal. "I am a 40-year-old voiceover actress who finally found myself in a relationship where my partner wanted to have a child with me. Then, the economy went south. We are struggling financially, but I don't have time to wait -- so we are trying. Plenty of children are born into struggling homes. My parents struggled, and their parents struggled. I grew up appreciating things when we had them, and I managed to do a lot of wonderful things in my life even though we didn't have extra money," says Heidi.
Going for it
Other couples aren't factoring finances into their decisions as much. Many couples who've skirted the jobless situation are going ahead with baby plans. "I am now 5 months along, due in mid-October. I have to say, it was a decision my husband and I made with little regard to the economy, and I think that's because we are both doing well in our careers with no real signs that economy will affect [them] anytime soon. I am 28, and my husband is 30, so we figured this was the perfect time to grow our family," says LaNesha Gipson. Gipson says that, despite the economy, she is considering opening her own business to work at home and care for her child.
As Cecille Hansen's mother told her, "If people waited until they felt they could really afford children, the species would have died out."
